I hate to make this post about Ari, but in so many ways life became a big life lesson in FAITH when I first took that pregnancy test. He really has taught me the lesson my Grandma repeated often, "Nothing happens by accident." Who would have guessed such a tiny little baby could rock our world in so many crazy and big ways.
The past year has had a lot of unknowns and crazy things happen.
Our house is old. It is wonderful and big and COLD! LOL It works great for us, but it has the potential for a lot of upgrading and to make it grand. 3 kids very close together has made it very hard for Anthony and I to do the work. Many days we are too tired to even think about the house. Just when we were at that point to work after Lilliana...SURPRISE here comes Ari. While we love this boy so much, he has brought a crazy dynamic to our house. His personality is fun, but beware when the crying and screaming happens. I don't want to dwell on the negative, because he really is a huge blessing and we love him. I will put it this way, he is the child we have had to be creative with. Everything I said I wouldn't do as a parent I have had to rethink with him. He keeps us on our toes.
Our house is old. It is wonderful and big and COLD! LOL It works great for us, but it has the potential for a lot of upgrading and to make it grand. 3 kids very close together has made it very hard for Anthony and I to do the work. Many days we are too tired to even think about the house. Just when we were at that point to work after Lilliana...SURPRISE here comes Ari. While we love this boy so much, he has brought a crazy dynamic to our house. His personality is fun, but beware when the crying and screaming happens. I don't want to dwell on the negative, because he really is a huge blessing and we love him. I will put it this way, he is the child we have had to be creative with. Everything I said I wouldn't do as a parent I have had to rethink with him. He keeps us on our toes.
Last year the beginning of February we decided to begin looking at cost to replace windows. Our house was built somewhere between 1860-1890. The ORIGINAL windows are still in the house. When we bought the house it was winter. They had been painted shut basically. Needless to say that first spring and summer we were in for a wake up call. It also means our house is very cold. Last winter was terrible so we decided to start replacing them. I was less than thrilled with the cost but it needed to happen.
We had an estimate done. Needless to say it was going to cost an arm leg and maybe kidney. The light in this house is wonderful, but 22 windows later almost all being 6 feet tall.....you get the point. Unfortunately, with Anthony's job at the time he was laid off and working way less than normal. We realized it was one project that would have to wait. The cooler summer meant we had the windows open more than usual. Ari loves his cars and also anything in his mouth so he would look out the window and play on the window seals. I didn't think much of it until July.
June Ari had a well baby check up. He also had his lead test done. All the kids had them done right before 2. A month later I received a letter in the mail saying my child may have lead poisoning. I just couldn't believe it. Anthony is lead certified for removal. We follow the precautions. He cleans areas we know with lead paint etc. We follow all protocols. Meanwhile I placed a call to his Dr. to get the tests results. With the packet came a huge questionnaire to feel out from the lead safe program from the state. This meant if we qualified the state would take care of the lead. Anthony and I talked and we decided to ignore it. We really try as hard as we can to work and do what we can to take care of ourselves. It is a personal decision and very hard to accept help for me. I realize that is not just our money. It is many other American workers working hard too. Well, then Ari's test came back and it was a 10. Five and below is normal. 10 and above is VERY high. We requested to have all the kids tested and Ari again.
We had an estimate done. Needless to say it was going to cost an arm leg and maybe kidney. The light in this house is wonderful, but 22 windows later almost all being 6 feet tall.....you get the point. Unfortunately, with Anthony's job at the time he was laid off and working way less than normal. We realized it was one project that would have to wait. The cooler summer meant we had the windows open more than usual. Ari loves his cars and also anything in his mouth so he would look out the window and play on the window seals. I didn't think much of it until July.
June Ari had a well baby check up. He also had his lead test done. All the kids had them done right before 2. A month later I received a letter in the mail saying my child may have lead poisoning. I just couldn't believe it. Anthony is lead certified for removal. We follow the precautions. He cleans areas we know with lead paint etc. We follow all protocols. Meanwhile I placed a call to his Dr. to get the tests results. With the packet came a huge questionnaire to feel out from the lead safe program from the state. This meant if we qualified the state would take care of the lead. Anthony and I talked and we decided to ignore it. We really try as hard as we can to work and do what we can to take care of ourselves. It is a personal decision and very hard to accept help for me. I realize that is not just our money. It is many other American workers working hard too. Well, then Ari's test came back and it was a 10. Five and below is normal. 10 and above is VERY high. We requested to have all the kids tested and Ari again.
Meanwhile in all of this Anthony was still not working as much as he had in the past, or I should say he was working a lot but the pay was lower. It is the way it goes with his job. We were continually praying for a new job. I was working a lot more than I wanted to with sessions. I was stressed and tired from trying to finalize homeschool curriculum, sessions, running a business, and now worried my house is a toxic mess that was poisoning my child. His crankiness was probably due to some lead issues.
The lady from the state called me back and really urged me to fill out the paperwork. She basically said when it is this high the state steps in because it is a hazard. I explained I really hated to accept government aid like this because truly we could work for it. Like she explained to me, yes I agree with you and I really love to see that. Unfortunately this has become a hazard and your children could suffer. Unless you can deal with it now I strongly urge you to do this even to get a lead assessment.
The lady from the state called me back and really urged me to fill out the paperwork. She basically said when it is this high the state steps in because it is a hazard. I explained I really hated to accept government aid like this because truly we could work for it. Like she explained to me, yes I agree with you and I really love to see that. Unfortunately this has become a hazard and your children could suffer. Unless you can deal with it now I strongly urge you to do this even to get a lead assessment.
So the paperwork was filled out. By this point word has spread a new position would be opening at Anthony's job. We both knew it would be a pay cut. At this point we had already taken that pay cut and while things were tight we were making it work. I was taking sessions and somehow we knew we would survive. Also, there would not be the threat of being laid off for no work. This was huge. It was also a consistent known paycheck. The entire time Anthony and I have been married that has never been the case. Budgeting for that can be VERY hard. He also would have consistent hours. We both knew I was at a breaking point. I was beyond overwhelmed with the kids, school, and business. I was cranky. Well, he began working the job. Little did they know they were testing him for the position. We continually prayed about this. In order to be able to take the job it would have to be a certain amount and certain hours. This would be able to ensure come fall he could begin classes at college. Meanwhile, we heard nothing from the state.
November came around and they asked for people to apply for the position. Anthony was offered the job. He accepted it, but it was not a for sure thing as they needed to negotiate pay. I was thrilled. I anticipated still having to keep my business open though. This was a hard pill to swallow. Even with Anthony home more, I was drowning in sessions and homeschool. I loved both, but there was not enough room to be patient and non stressed. This school year has been the most involved and we have loved it, but it has meant more cranky for me unfortunately.
December came and the first week we received a call from the state. The lead inspector wanted to come in two days. At this point we had no clue what was going on. She arrived and I was a nervous mess. Having the state in your home can be scary. Thankfully it went way better than I ever could have imagined. Anthony told me before she even came, I promise this will be the best house she visits. She confirmed this to me that day. Usually they are in very poor neighborhoods. She has to report child abuse and drugs many times after projects are complete. She was so thrilled with our kids and house. They could not get over how polite and well mannered they were and that the house was so clean. She also explained a lot of more of the process going forth. Because his level was so high they were doing way more of an inspection that normal. It also would all be taken care of. It had to be according to her. Anthony would be able to do a lot of work though and that was a huge bonus. Usually the family has to come up with the difference in the bid from what the state awards or do the work. Anthony could do a lot of the lead work so it was really helpful.
November came around and they asked for people to apply for the position. Anthony was offered the job. He accepted it, but it was not a for sure thing as they needed to negotiate pay. I was thrilled. I anticipated still having to keep my business open though. This was a hard pill to swallow. Even with Anthony home more, I was drowning in sessions and homeschool. I loved both, but there was not enough room to be patient and non stressed. This school year has been the most involved and we have loved it, but it has meant more cranky for me unfortunately.
December came and the first week we received a call from the state. The lead inspector wanted to come in two days. At this point we had no clue what was going on. She arrived and I was a nervous mess. Having the state in your home can be scary. Thankfully it went way better than I ever could have imagined. Anthony told me before she even came, I promise this will be the best house she visits. She confirmed this to me that day. Usually they are in very poor neighborhoods. She has to report child abuse and drugs many times after projects are complete. She was so thrilled with our kids and house. They could not get over how polite and well mannered they were and that the house was so clean. She also explained a lot of more of the process going forth. Because his level was so high they were doing way more of an inspection that normal. It also would all be taken care of. It had to be according to her. Anthony would be able to do a lot of work though and that was a huge bonus. Usually the family has to come up with the difference in the bid from what the state awards or do the work. Anthony could do a lot of the lead work so it was really helpful.
January came and we received our date for a walk through for bids. Anthony also finally had his job pay negotiated. It was nothing short of a miracle. They offered him what we hoped we could get and not what was necessary and what we would expect. It was a huge answer to prayer. At that point I have never had so much peace about something and that was retiring my business. It was hard, sad, and bittersweet. In the end though it was exactly what I needed. I LOVED doing it and I miss not setting up sessions right now at times, but I don't miss the time it took away from family.
We also had the walk through and heard back from all of that. The best news of it all is they have actually asked Anthony not to do the work and we pay some of it. It worked out better than we had hoped that way. The amount of work he was going to have to do was going to be a lot. I worried he would be exhausted. We do have to be out of our house for up to 10 days (it more than likely won't take that long). Either way it has all worked out.
Many times when we don't understand the trial there is a bigger picture. It all has been one crazy circle for me. Last year I was very upset at the lack of work and frustration of trying to figure out how to make everything work. Little did I know that would be to our benefit. Had Anthony not had the big pay cut/lack of work the beginning of the year we never would have met the income bracket for the lead program. Having Ari get lead poisoning was heartbreaking to me as a mother. I was mortified and scared for him. In the end it is bringing some much needed improvements to the windows. Last but not least, the pay cut at the beginning of the year taught us to buckle down even more and live on less than we were for the new position which has been a huge blessing. Nothing happens by accident and it has all been God's plan It was hard to see at the time, but it has just taught me more about faith.
Many times when we don't understand the trial there is a bigger picture. It all has been one crazy circle for me. Last year I was very upset at the lack of work and frustration of trying to figure out how to make everything work. Little did I know that would be to our benefit. Had Anthony not had the big pay cut/lack of work the beginning of the year we never would have met the income bracket for the lead program. Having Ari get lead poisoning was heartbreaking to me as a mother. I was mortified and scared for him. In the end it is bringing some much needed improvements to the windows. Last but not least, the pay cut at the beginning of the year taught us to buckle down even more and live on less than we were for the new position which has been a huge blessing. Nothing happens by accident and it has all been God's plan It was hard to see at the time, but it has just taught me more about faith.
Oh my gosh Alexis, what a nightmare for your family but you persisted, prayed, had faith and it all worked out! What an amazing story. Love the photos, especially the new ones of the kids with the gray background!
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